You are Engaged! Congratulations on finding your Prince Charming and the sparkling solitaire adorning your delicate fingers. For most brides-to-be, this is a phase of mixed emotions; one that needs time for the excitement and reality to sink in, and also an overwhelming one in terms of planning her wedding the way she has always dreamt of. Before you take all the pressures of wedding planning on yourself, take time to feel good and start glowing.
Fortunately for Indian brides, our big Indian families waiting to take on the wedding planner roles is godsend; and all the bride has to do is to articulate her take on how she wants everything to be on her special day. However, putting to action all the wedding day plans you’ve been weaving for all these years is no simple task. And your primary responsibility as the mastermind is to Daydream….daydream a lot and be a taskmaster!
Brides who already have their Pinterest wedding boards sure have a jumpstart; as for the others, it’s never too late to start pinning! Then again, not everyone would’ve been planning their wedding since the day they turned five; and that’s perfectly OK. After all, every bride is different and your wedding should be a reflection of your own personality and style. To kick-start your wedding planning, get a bunch of wedding magazines, watch Father of the Bride for feel-good tears, look at maps for honeymoon ideas, and stalk engagement sites & Pinterest boards. Give yourself permission to let your brain turn into its own wedding channel. However, now that the countdown has started, it is necessary to ensure that every bit of research and planning is streamlined and output oriented.
Talking of wedding research and planning, gone are the days of archiving inspiration photos off the net. For the new age bride who in the days up to her wedding will need all the help available in collating her wedding inspirations in one place, Pinterest will be her new best friend.
A bride’s inspiration boards should not be limited to wedding makeup, wedding attire, and flower girls/bridesmaids but also include wedding decor, colour themes, bridal bouquet and wedding hairstyles. Creating her own wedding boards showcasing personal taste not only helps organize the bride’s preferences, but will also help her communicate clearly and more effectively with the vendors.
Doing your own wedding research not only helps to have a clear idea on how you want your wedding to be but also helps to familiarise you with all the wedding jargon that you will hear in the days ahead. After all, you would want every aspect of your wedding to reflect your personal style and not the die-cut replicas that our Indian wedding vendors are notorious for.
When charting out your wedding plan, before you talk to the vendors, have the following finalised in your mind.
Wedding & reception style – church, black tie, formal or destination
Colour theme – could be anything under the sun but keep in mind your wedding style
Wedding decor theme – classic, vintage, extravagant, royal, minimalistic etc
Wedding attire – Indian, fusion or western keeping in mind your personality and style. You want to look your best at your wedding, not look like someone else.
Last but most importantly, take time to relax – get a massage, start your beauty regime and sleep in when you can. This is a once-in-a-lifetime event purely about you and your fiancé. You are allowed to enjoy it!